Mary M. Lander

Mary M. Lander, age 87, of Wilmington, DE passed away on Sunday, July 22, 2018 surrounded by her family.

Mary was born in Wilmington, the daughter of the late Timothy and Amy (McKay) McCarthy. She was a graduate of Wilmington High School and went on to work as an Administrative Assistant for DuPont, Christiana Care, and finally retired from ARC of DE, however Mary’s most important job was that of a loving mother, grandmother, and great-grandmother. Mary was predeceased by her husband, Benjamin T. Lander, Jr.; her son, Benjamin J. Lander; her son-in-law, Thomas M. Baxter, Sr.; her grandson, Shaun Baxter; her sisters, Eileen and Elizabeth McCarthy and brothers, Thomas, Timothy, and Edward McCarthy.

Mary is survived by her daughters, Kathleen Baxter and Theresa Duffy (John); her sons, James, Kevin, and Joseph Lander, all of Wilmington; her grandchildren, Thomas Baxter (Carrie), Joshua Slattery, Matthew and Ashley Lander, and Elizabeth Hickam; and her great grandchildren, Samuel and Ryan Baxter, Kaelynn and Alanna Slattery, Giovani Mazara, Alliana Vega and Erin Darling.

Mass of Christian Burial will be celebrated on Friday, July 27, 2018 at 11 AM at St. John the Beloved Church, 907 Milltown Rd, Wilmington, DE 19808, where friends may call after 10 AM.  Burial will follow at All Saints Cemetery.  In lieu of flowers, contributions may be sent to the Ministry of Caring, Inc., 115 E 14th St, Wilmington, DE 19801. Online condolences may be made at


Submitted by Carol Lander Fillard on
I am so sorry to learn of Aunt Mary’s passing. She was one a soft hearted, kind and gentle soul. I have fond memories of visiting with her and all the Lander families at Grandma’s house in Lebanon. I bet she will have a ball being reunited with Uncle Ben, Benji and all her beloved family and grandson in heaven. I truly wish I could be there to give everyone lots of hugs. You all are in my thoughts and prayers at this very difficult time. Love, Carol and family

Submitted by Alex on
I extend my sincere condolences to the Lander family on their loss. Jehovah God promises us that through his son Jesus, he will wipe out every tear from our eyes, and death will be no more, neither will mourning nor outcry nor pain be anymore. Revelation 21:3,4. May you find comfort in these thoughts along with other scriptures and videos found @ Please take comfort from this promise during your time of bereavement.