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Bernadette “Pat” Devlin Farley

On Sunday, March 10, 2019, Bernadette “Pat” Devlin Farley ‘faded away’, ‘in her words’, three weeks before her 96th birthday, with emerald green rosaries in hand and a reflection of the map of Ireland on her face. If her body complied, she wanted to live long enough to become a centenarian and be recognized on the ‘Today Show’, for Al Roker’s milestone birthdays.

She was preceded in death by her husband, James (‘Frecks’) Farley in 1993, her parents Patrick and Mae Devlin, her brothers Vincent and Edward (Jean) Devlin, and her son-in-law CWO Rolin ‘Jay’ Crosby. She is survived by her sister, Sr. Marita Patrick Devlin, IHM, her son, Joe (Rosemary Parisi); her daughters Francie (Jack Young,) Anne (Peg Costello), and Maureen; her grandchildren Joe, Jr. (Allie), Brendan (Rachel), and Melissa Farley, Drew Fioravanti (Danielle), Tony Fioravanti (Kate), Nicole DiMarco (Phil) and Meghan Costello. She is also survived by her great grandchildren Luke, Will and Jake Fioravanti; Dominic and Vinnie DiMarco; Rainey, Zoe and James Farley; and Natalie Pearson Mason; nephews Terry and Daniel, and nieces, Patty Ann, Marie Theresa, and Kathleen.

Born on March 29, 1923 in the coal region of Pennsylvania, Pat, Frecks and their four children moved to Delaware in the early 1950’s after the mines closed. Leaving their childhood hometown of Ashland, Pa., where they had friends, family and traditions, was difficult. There were frequent visits, nostalgic stories and special recipes, like “Poorman’s Bread’ that kept ‘back home’ alive. They reveled in their new tight-knit neighborhood in Elsmere, DE. In 1997, Pat moved full-time to Rehoboth where she enjoyed the beach with her family. She was an active member of the Ladies Auxiliary American Legion Post 5, social member of the Rehoboth VFW 7447, St. Edmonds Catholic Church, and remained active in the Democratic party.

She was President of the Ladies Auxiliary Rehoboth American Legion Post 5 from 2001 to 2005 and past Membership Chair. When president, she led many volunteer efforts to serve those in need. Pat was recognized in a Cape Gazette article as a ‘Thoroughly Modern Day Millie’ for her activism and altruism. She was honored to receive a Governor’s Volunteer Award for her service to veterans and youth.

A woman before her time, Pat had multiple professional careers from computer programming to real estate sales. She created a blue print for aging, and was dubbed a medical mystery by her grandson, based on her diet of unhealthy foods, sweets, taste for VO, and lack of exercise.

An avid Democrat, Pat was the first woman elector from Delaware, voting for Bill Clinton in the 1992 Electoral College. She served as the past president of the Eastern Sussex Democrat Club, past president of Sussex Women’s Democratic Club, a Democratic committee member, and routinely cooked a hearty breakfast for volunteers each Election Day. She was a recipient of the Alexis I. duPont Bayard Award for her service to the Democratic Party.

She was known for ‘telling it like it is’ and being ‘a force of nature’. Thankfully to all, especially her family, these qualities were tempered by her keen sense of humor and love of a good story.  

Love of God, family, community, her Irish heritage and her country were enduring values that she taught her family. Pat was a trailblazer and a hell raiser, but most of all, she was a devoted great-grandmother, grandmother, mother and friend. She overcame poverty and discrimination to create a life that she could not have imagined. She leaves behind a legacy that will live in our hearts forever. In her final journey, as in life, Pat made her desires clear. She wanted to ‘go home.’ Special thanks to Lucy Stepnowski for her care and St. Francis Compassionate Care staff, Dr. Dan and Dr. Sandy Gibney, for making our mother’s homecoming what she had wanted it to be- a death with dignity, in her faith, surrounded by family. Her Irish wit endured. When her daughter Maureen asked if she was ready to cross over, she responded, “I’ll wait my turn.”

A mass of Christian burial will be held at St. Edmond’s Catholic Church, Rehoboth Beach, De on Friday, May 10 at 11:00 a.m. Interment will be privately held at Delaware Veteran’s Memorial Cemetery. In lieu of flowers, find a person in need and pay it forward in Pat’s memory or make a contribution in her memory to the St. Patrick’s Center, 107 East 14th Street, Wilmington, DE 19801 or donate.stpatrickscenter.org/donation.
 

Comments

Submitted by Donna Francisco... on
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Maureen—So sorry for your loss. I remember your mother fondly & will keep her & your family in my prayers during these difficult days.

Submitted by Elaine Greggo on
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Dear Maureen, Ann, Francie and Joe, My prayers are with all of you. You are a courageous and kind family who respected your Mom's wishes so well. Her Peace is your Peace. Love, Elaine

Submitted by Karen & Jim Murray on
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To the Extended Farley Family - Our sincere condolences on your loss of the matriarch of your family. She could be a force to be reckoned with, but was also a kind, compassionate human being. She was a great teacher and mentor and will be remembered fondly by those that were fortunate enough to know her. Rest in peace Pat...you've earned your place in Heavenly Paradise. Love, Karen & Jim Murray

Submitted by Donna Knight on
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Joe and family, my deepest condolences on your loss. Sounds like she truly was the matriarch of your family.

Submitted by Woody Miller on
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JOE & FAMILY: Sorry for your loss to one great matriarch of a wonderful and thoughtful family that will radiate forever. Sending our Love, Barbara & Woody

Submitted by Kathleen Dugan on
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Anne, Peg, Maureen

Submitted by larry parrish on
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From the front step conversations to the all night Christmas Eve get togethers and the pool in the backyard these are the memories I'll carry forever. The Farley's was a place where the door was always open . .I knew her name was Pat but to me she was Mrs. Farley ( Jim Mr. Farley) always. She didn't demand it she deserved it. She genuinely cared and demonstrated it over and over by her actions. Her legacy will be those she touched in this life and the example that she left to her children to carry on .I'm proud to say I knew her and dare I say loved her. Bless You Mrs.Farley .

Submitted by Kathleen Dugan on
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Anne,Peg,Maureen &The Farley Family: We are so sorry to hear about the loss of your Mother. She lived a colorful life and a long life. You and your family are in our thoughts and prayers during this most difficult time. In sympathy and friendship, Kathleen and Larry Dugan

Submitted by Joanne Capuano ... on
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Francie and family, so very sorry to hear of your Mom’s passing. Condolences to all.

Submitted by Dolly on
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Francie, I am so sorry about your mom.what a wonderful family and what a good life she had. Thinking of you.

Submitted by Judy King on
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Pat was a true Christain, she will be greatly missed, it was an honor to have known her.

Submitted by Nancy Biddle on
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Ann and Andrew, I am sorry for your loss. I will keep you and your families in my prayers.

Submitted by Shirley and Bil... on
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Dearest Francie, we were so sorry to hear of the passing of your Mother. Please know that you and your family are in our thoughts and prayers. Love Shirley

Submitted by Michelle on
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What a beautiful tribute! My heartfelt condolences to the Farley family. May the God of all comfort bring your family peace during this difficult time. (Psalm 34:18) With deepest sympathy

Submitted by Nancy C on
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I am very sorry to read of the passing of your loved one, Pat. She will be missed. It is comforting to know that she is sleeping peacefully in death as recorded at 1Thessalonians 4:13. She is awaiting the time when verse 14 of that same chapter will be fulfilled. This time will be made a reality by means of God's Kingdom in which we pray for in the Lord's Prayer. Once more I am sorry for your loss.

Submitted by Mell Hawk on
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Please accept my very deepest condolences regarding the loss of Pat. It is humbly apparent that she was loved, very much. During sad times like this, how does God offer us comfort? His word the Bible tells us at Rev. 21:4 t: “And he will wipe out every tear from their eyes, and death will be no more, neither will mourning nor outcry nor pain be anymore. The former things have passed away.” This helps us to see that that death, is not a part, of life—because why would God promise . . . to do away with it? The scripture also speaks of doing away with mourning, outcry, and pain here on earth—because are these conditions that exist in heaven? I sincerely hope this scripture gives your family the comfort it has given mine, and if you'd like to read the Bible online, or learn about God's promises for our loved ones who've fallen asleep in death, please feel free to visit JW. org. Again, my very deepest condolences to those who love and cherish Pat.

Submitted by Joan Brown on
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My condolences to the family for the loss of your loved one, Bernadette, and may you find confort in the Bible's future scriptural promises from Almighty God (Psalm 83:18). Job 14:14,15. Acts 24:15. Isaiah 25:8.